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Kevin Fischer is a veteran broadcaster, the recipient of over 150 major journalism awards from the Milwaukee Press Club, the Wisconsin Associated Press, the Northwest Broadcast News Association, the Wisconsin Bar Association, and others. He has been seen and heard on Milwaukee TV and radio stations for over three decades. A longtime aide to state Senate Republicans in the Wisconsin Legislature, Kevin can be seen offering his views on the news on the public affairs program, "InterCHANGE," on Milwaukee Public Television Channel 10, and heard filling in on Newstalk 1130 WISN. He lives with his wife, Jennifer, and their lovely young daughter, Kyla Audrey, in Franklin.

Kyla's Korner - Musings of a Mother (06/09/11)

Kyla's Korner

By Jennifer Fischer

Mother of little angel, Kyla Audrey Fischer

I never want to be Kyla’s friend.

I will be her mentor, her protector, her confidant.  I will be her maid, her short-order cook, her chauffeur.  I will be her nurse, her therapist, her pharmacist.  I will be her coach, her agent, her photographer, her hair stylist and her cheerleader.

But I will NEVER be her friend.

What IS it with moms who want to be their daughter’s BFF’s?  I don’t get it.  Two examples from my life make me shake my head in wonder.  A cousin of a friend wanted nothing more than to be “cool” to her two daughters.  They were beautiful girls growing up and are incredibly pretty young adults.  But the older girl got mixed up with the wrong crowd and the wrong boy.  Not just “wrong” like they snuck a cigarette or partied too late.  Wrong like heavy drug use and jail time.  Fortunately she turned things around and seems to be living clean & healthy these days.  I know the mom learned her lesson but at such a dear price… her daughter’s innocence.  

A relative of a relative is now doing the same thing with her daughter.  Again, the girl is so pretty and so full of potential.  But at the tender age of 19, she has a fake ID that Mommy actually bought!  Mommy has also purchased drinking paraphernalia for the rental house she will be moving in to.  The things that she has posted on a social networking site are enough to make me… well…  I don’t even know.  It’s appalling.  If, or when, something happens to this lovely young lady that lands her in a heap of trouble, I’m sure there will be cries of “Oh, where did I go wrong?”  Hmmm, probably started when you thought it was really cool that she was a waitress (at 17 years old) in a certain wings restaurant wearing orange shorts & a white tank top.  

Currently she is employed as a “waitress” in a nightclub downtown that caters to a hip-and-trendy but hard-partying clientele.  Her uniform shows more skin than a VS model.  If her customers are so inclined to indulge her, she is more than welcome to drink with them.  Again, she is NINETEEN YEARS OLD.  Her mother is so proud that her daughter has “a really good job.”  Just because she buys you designer handbags with her tips does not mean she has “a really good job.”

I’m not saying this girl is going to go down a life-long road of illegal and illicit behavior.  Then again, I don’t envision her as the next Hannah Giles, either.  “Hannah Montana,” maybe.

I know that every parent has their own style of raising their children.  Right now I’m caught up in the debate of Pull-Ups vs. Regular Underwear for Kyla’s soon-to-be potty training experience.  To each their own.   But somehow I don’t think my choice of undergarment for my toddler is going to shape the young adult I will be so proud of in a couple of years.  Again, I understand that what works for one family may not work for another.  I don’t want to judge curfews, allowances, TV time or eating arrangements.  However, there are certain things that just don’t feel right to me for ANY parent/child relationship.  Buying your daughter her first keg for her “apartment warming” is one of them.

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